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Frequently Asked Questions

1.  Can inmates receive phone calls or make phone calls?  In many institutions they are allowed to make long distance phone calls.  They are collect and are more expensive than regular collect calls.  The reason for this is the prison makes a big profit on the calls.  They are also usually limited in length to around ten or fifteen minutes.  You should be cautious in giving out your phone number as it can become expensive.  

2. Can I e-mail a prisoner?  No. Prisoners cannot receive e-mail.  You can write them via postal service.  However, lately on a couple of the ads I have noticed that they stated they can receive emails.  So it is possible that a very small percentage (less than 1%) may be able to receive emails. I do not forward emails to inmates.  Many prisons do not approve of this and it is our policy that we do not supply that service. 

3. What if I'm not 18- Can I still write a prisoner or use your service?  No. You must be at least 18 years of age.  It is not wise for someone under 18 to write a prisoner nor is it wise for a prisoner to write someone under 18.

4. How often are ads updated? Usually within one to fifteen days of receiving a prisoner's ad.

5.  What is the D.O.C. number next to the prisoner's name? This is the Department of Corrections number. You must include this next to the prisoner's name when writing them or the letter will not be delivered.

6. Can prisoners receive gifts, stamps, etc.?  Usually not but the rules vary from prison to prison.  On your first letter do not send anything other than your letter and possibly a photo of yourself.  Ask the inmate you are corresponding with for rules of her/his specific institution.  Polaroid photos are not allowed.

7. Do you have any suggestions for writing prisoners? Be honest with them. You only have one chance to make a first impression. Most of these people are in need of friends and contact outside of prison. Mail is a very positive experience for them. Just be yourself.  Many of these inmates will not respond if you do not show them some respect or if you send sexually explicit letters.

8. Do you have a disclaimer posted on Meet-An-Inmate.  Yes, we do as we are dealing with convicted felons.  The disclaimer is on the home page and states:

We (meet-an-inmate.com) accept no responsibility for the accuracy of any content found within these pages. The appropriate safeguards should be used in communicating with any person(s) that you may meet through this service. By using this service, you agree to not hold us responsible for any costs, liabilities, attorney's fee or damages that you may incur. The ads placed on my service are written by the inmates and we are only the means by which their ads are published. To use this service you must be at least 18 years of age.   

9.  Can I request an inmate be removed from your site or make changes to her/his ad?  No. All changes made to an ad must come directly from the prisoner who placed the ad. They need to put their request in writing and mail it to our office. We do this to protect the privacy of their ad and make sure no one changes it when they do not so desire it.

10. Can I pay for a prisoner's ad?  Yes.  The ad will run  for  12 months.  Print out application at:  http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/application.htm which will work for men or women.  For a female specific application go to:
http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/applicationladies.htm

If you would rather email (ab@bisky.com or webmaster@meet-an-inmate.com) the ad, photo and payment, you can pay now via paypal or credit card by clicking button below.  Type all wording, attach jpeg photo and email them to me separately from payment.  Or if you prefer to send information first and I can bill you.  Alternative is to simply print out and complete application, include money order and mail to Meet-An-Inmate.com, Arlen Bischke, P.O. Box 1342, Pendleton, Oregon    97801

Use this button for six months ad ($15.00)

Use this button for 12 months ad ($25.00)

11.  How many prisoners can I write? There is no limit! Pick as many as you can be a good pen pal to. The only requirement is you have to be 18 or older.  I recommend that you write several to increase your chances of success in finding someone you enjoy writing.

12. Can I print applications and send them to the inmate?  Yes,  you can find the applications to print out at:
Male: http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/applicationmale.htm

Female: http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/applicationladies.htm

13.  How did Meet-An-Inmate.Com start.     In 1998 I decided to start a web site dedicated to getting mail for prisoners.  My daughter saw an ad in the personals section of a local advertiser under the classification meet-a-mate, which gave us the idea for the name meet-an-inmate.com. 

14.   Is it possible at all, to be informed of the crime in which the person we contacted has committed?  There are several states that give out this information free on their websites.  You can go to my website at http://www.inmatesplus.com  to start your search.

15.  Do you recommend looking for a mate through your service.
No, I do not as the odds of everything working out are slim.  There just are too many obstacles.   I recommend the site for recreational use.  It can be a lot of fun writing an inmate on a friend/pen pal basis.  I recommend not to send money to inmates.  However, if you do, only send small amounts less than fifty dollars.  Usually they can make purchases in the prison store on items such as shampoo, shoes, books, magazines, writing paper, etc.  If an inmate asks for large amounts of money you should always suspect fraud and not be foolish.  These men and women are inmates and are usually in prison for good reason.  This is meet-an-inmate.com, not meet-a-girl-scout.com!  Read question number seventeen for information on possible scams.

These days more and more people are looking to the internet to find romance.  I recommend the following sites in which I am an affiliate for.

http://www.megafriends.com/?rid=mfrs3860 everyone welcome.

http://www.ads-for-singles.com everyone welcome.

http://www.meet-your-date.com for big and beautiful women.

16.  What is the mailing address for Meet-An-Inmate.Com?

Meet-An-Inmate.com
Arlen Bischke
P.O. Box 1342
Pendleton, Oregon   97801

Email address is webmaster@meet-an-inmate.com

17.  Do I have to be worried about scams when writing inmates?  Caution must always be used when dealing with inmates.

Here are some of the problems we have encountered:

·         FAKE PICTURES.  When we receive proof the photo is fake she is removed from the site.

·         OLD PICTURES.  It is common that they cannot send us a recent photo.  We do not remove them from the site for this reason if the photo is of them.

·         UNDERSTATING THEIR AGE.  We will remove them if He/she lies of her age.

·         SHORTENING HER RELEASE DATE.  This can be very complicated because they may be stating the expected release date after earning gain time or they may be stating an optimistic parole date.  If a lady says she gets out in two years and she is in for life we obviously will remove them, but it is not always that simple.

·         LYING TO GET MONEY.  They sometimes outright lie to get money sent to them.  The best advice is not to send money or only very small amounts for stamps, stationary, or small luxuries such as shampoo, deodorant, shoes, etc.  If you send money it is your choice and need to take responsibility for a bad decision if things do not go as you envisioned.  

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